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6 strategies to encourage positive behavior in children

Updated: Jul 13, 2023


Comportamiento positivo en niños
Comportamiento positivo en niños


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Introduction


At ABCnMe, we are excited to share with you some effective keys to motivating your children to have good behaviors. We know that raising and educating children can be challenging, but we are here to provide you with the support you need. Encouraging positive behaviors from an early age is crucial to a child's development.


Create a positive environment


The first critical step in motivating children to engage in good behaviors is to create a positive and nurturing environment. Children need to feel safe, loved and accepted in order to express their best selves. A positive environment fosters children's confidence and emotional well-being. To achieve this, it is important to establish positive relationships with them, based on respect and affection. Show a genuine interest in their lives and actively listen to their thoughts and emotions.


In addition, encouraging and recognizing children's appropriate behaviors is essential. Let's be sure to show gratitude and interest when they perform positive actions. For example, we can say, "You should feel proud of yourself-you worked so hard for it!". This type of positive feedback reinforces their self-esteem by giving value to them, rather than the external and motivates them to continue to show positive behaviors on their own.


Set clear expectations


Children need to know what is expected of them. Setting clear expectations is critical to guiding their behavior. Rules and standards provide structure and guidance in children's daily lives. Communicate these expectations clearly and understandably, using language appropriate to their developmental level.


When establishing rules, it is important to also explain the consequences of negative behaviors. Help children understand the reasons behind the established rules. For example, if we establish a rule to "treat others kindly," we can explain that when we are kind, we make others feel good and create a harmonious environment. On the other hand, if we show aggressive or hurtful behavior, we may hurt others' feelings. By understanding the consequences of their actions, children will be more aware of how their behaviors affect others and will be motivated to act appropriately.


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Encouraging autonomy and responsibility


Encouraging autonomy and responsibility is essential for the overall development of children. Allow them to make age-appropriate decisions and provide them with opportunities to take on tasks and responsibilities. This provides them with a sense of value and belonging. For example, we can let them choose their clothes or decide what activity to do after preschool. By making appropriate choices, children feel empowered and motivated to take an active role in their development.


In addition, assigning tasks and responsibilities commensurate with their ability helps them develop organizational skills and responsibility. For example, they can help put away their toys or help with simple household chores, such as setting the table. As they fulfill these responsibilities, we can recognize and reward their individual efforts. Celebrating their accomplishments and showing appreciation for their contribution strengthens their motivation and encourages them to keep up their efforts.


Encourage empathy and cooperation


Empathy is a crucial social skill to cultivate in our children from an early age. Empathy helps them understand and consider the feelings of others. Let's foster empathy by encouraging them to put themselves in others' shoes and to see things from different perspectives.


Promote teamwork and peaceful conflict resolution. Organizing activities that encourage collaboration and mutual help, such as team projects or cooperative games, is an excellent way to cultivate these values. By working together, children learn to value each other's strengths and contributions, and develop effective communication and problem-solving skills.


In addition, let's teach our children to express their emotions and needs appropriately and respectfully. Open and effective communication fosters mutual understanding and helps prevent unnecessary conflict.


Use encouragement as a tool instead of praise and rewards.


Encouragement is an effective tool for motivating children toward positive behaviors. We have heard a lot about praise, however, we know that praise is like candy and should be used sparingly. For example, when praising we might say, "Wow, I love it! I am so proud of you", at this point we are putting the value on the external, and the child might continue to perform the behavior just to continue to hear this praise. In this way, we teach them that they only get the value for themselves from outside of them. Instead, by encouraging we can say, "You should be very proud of yourself" or "Thank you for your effort, you worked it out all by yourself." By encouraging, we help people believe in their capacity for individual worth and independence.




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Set attainable goals for our children and recognize their efforts to achieve them. For example, if they are learning to read, celebrate every time they read a whole book or recognize a new sound. This motivates them to keep progressing and helps them understand that their effort and dedication have positive rewards.


In addition, praising and recognizing children's efforts and achievements reinforces their motivation. It is important to emphasize the process and progress, not just the end results. For example, instead of praising only academic achievements, we can also recognize their problem-solving efforts or their positive attitude towards challenges. By recognizing their work and valuing their efforts, we teach them to find satisfaction in the learning process and to persevere in the face of obstacles.


Model positive behaviors


As adults, we are role models for our children. Our behaviors and attitudes have a significant impact on them. Let's be mindful of our actions and words, and make sure we model appropriate behavior. Let us show respect, empathy and kindness to others, both at home and in our community.


When faced with challenging situations, let us try to handle them constructively and peacefully. Let us resolve conflicts respectfully and openly discuss our emotions and thoughts. Our children are constantly watching and learning from us, so we should strive to be the best possible role models.





Conclusion


Awakening positive behaviors in our children is an exciting and challenging process. By creating a positive environment, setting clear expectations, encouraging autonomy and responsibility, promoting empathy and cooperation, using positive incentives and rewards, and modeling appropriate behaviors, we will be laying the foundation for our children to become respectful, kind, and responsible individuals.


Each child is unique and may require different approaches. Consistency and patience are key in this process. Celebrating each small step and recognizing our children's efforts is critical. With love, understanding and these keys to motivating positive behaviors, we will be building a solid path to a bright future for our little ones.


At ABCnMe, we are committed to the integral development of children and to cultivating positive behaviors from an early age. Our team of highly trained and experienced educators understands the importance of providing an enriching and nurturing environment where children can grow and learn with confidence. If you are looking for a preschool that specializes in motivating positive behaviors and promoting the social and emotional development of your children, we cordially invite you to visit our facilities at ABCnMe. We would love to welcome you and share more about how we can be a partner in your precious children's education!

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